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People Have More To Offer

Many users turn to pornography to try to fill a void. Their loved ones then ask themselves, “Why wasn’t I enough?” Husbands and wives especially feel that they just can not compete with the airbrushed fantasy.

 

After hearing this refrain over and over, marriage and family therapist Lori Cluff Schade published this article  on FamilyShare. Titled, “What you have to offer that pornography does not: A message to women,” the author explains to spouses of pornography users that their perception of inadequacy is all wrong. In reality, pornography is inadequate, and people win any possible comparison. Pornography cannot provide the loving support and companionship of a real life spouse. Pornography is fake– that it is why it does not satisfy.

 

In our digital age, too many of us forget that reality has more to offer than fantasy. We immerse ourselves in fandoms and idolize fictional characters, blind to the real life possibilities for love and adventure around us. We count “friends” and forget to nurture meaningful friendships. We capture endless selfies, but fall short of becoming our best selves.

 

In 2016, let us treasure reality over fantasy. Most importantly, though, let us remember that people have more to offer than screens.

 

 

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Why Block Porn: Because YOU Want To

In the last installment of our “Why Block Porn” series, we want to focus on a reason that does not really get talked about.

 

You know that you should block porn because you want grandkids someday.

 

You know that you should block porn for your spouse.

 

You know that you should block porn because it will save you money.

 

But the best reason to block pornography from your home is because you want to. Whether consciously or subconsciously, you don’t want to see it anymore. Surprised? Keep reading.

 

A recent study tried to discover what would increase women’s enjoyment of pornography. The researchers, Dr. Katherine Goldey and Dr. Sari van Anders of the University of Michigan, hypothesized that women would become more stimulated by viewing pornography they chose themselves. Their hypothesis proved correct; however, another surprising result emerged. The more choice the participants had over the pornographic material they viewed, the more they experienced negative emotions such as disgust, guilt, and embarrassment. Keep in mind that the researchers actively sought out women for the study who were comfortable with sexually suggestive and explicit material. This study (you can read more about it here) indicates that even women who say they enjoy pornography…. don’t really enjoy it.

 

The men are not behind either. Esquire recently ran a story (read it here) about young men giving up pornography as part of the NoFap movement. This is a generation of men who viewed sexually explicit material long before their first “real life” sexual experience (on average around age eleven). Many are realizing this inundation of artificial stimulation has impacted them for the worse, and so they are giving up porn. The followers of NoFap report a better sex life, more energy, and increased alertness, among other perks.

 

If the money, your grandkids, and your spouse are not enough motivation to block pornography from your home, do it for yourself. Removing porn from your life will only have positive effects for your health, your productivity, your intimate relationships, and your emotional well-being. Visit our website Cleanrouter.com today to learn how to achieve online peace of mind!

 

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“Removed” series highlights our attachment to mobile devices

Photographer Eric Pickersgill has published a series of photographs that highlight just how attached our society is to mobile devices.

 

The series, titled “Removed,” depicts people in ordinary situations using smart phones or tablets. However, Pickersgill has removed the mobile device from the finished photograph. The finished result depicts men, women, and children looking down at their hands.

 

The photographs, one of which is pictured above, evoke feelings of emptiness and loneliness. The irony, of course, is that many of us consider ourselves more connected to friends, family, and society by virtue of the internet. However, in “Removed,” it’s easy to see what we are really missing out on: time with loved ones, moments of everyday life, and the beauty of the world around us.

 

To view the rest of the “Removed” series by Eric Pickersgill, click here.

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For kids: “What should I do when I see pornography?”

The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-day Saints has released a video to help parents and children talk about pornography.

 

With statistics indicating that almost all children will be exposed to pornography eventually, the video, titled “What Should I Do When I See Pornography?” teaches children what to do when they see pornography– label it, turn off and/or put away the device, and tell a parent or trusted adult.

 

The Church’s video is unique to other resources in that it explains to children that avoiding pornography is part of taking care of one’s body. The video illustrates in a kid-friendly way how pornography affects your brain and your future relationships. Best of all, there is no guilt or shaming– the video lets kids know that curiosity is normal and their reactions can be handled appropriately with trusted adults.

 

The video, while presented from a religious perspective, contains information helpful to both religious and nonreligious families.

 

To watch “What Should I Do When I See Pornography?” click here.

 

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3 tips to prevent a technology dependency

“Glued to their phones.”

That’s how observers describe most teens, kids, and young adults these days. Even for older adults, disconnecting can require effort.

These behavioral patterns can lead to difficulty with face-to-face interaction, dangerous driving habits, obesity, or simply missing out on real life.

In our day, preventing a technology dependency requires parental guidance for kids and teens and mindful effort for everyone. Try these three tips to help you and your family stay in control of your screen time.

 

1) Ask yourself “Why am I plugging in?”

It’s easy to mindlessly pull out your phone and start scrolling. Two hours later, you haven’t moved an inch, and you aren’t even sure where the time went.

When you log on, have a purpose and maybe even a to-do list. Say to yourself, “I am going to ____, ____, and _____, and then I am getting off.

If you find yourself absent-mindedly pulling out your phone or computer, put it away until you really need to do something.

 

2) Schedule tech time

It’s important to remember that life is more than screen time! Have certain hours for your family that are the time for social media, entertainment, and work, and then unplug when time is up.

If you use technology heavily for work or are constantly expected to be available by phone or email, consider scheduling at least a little time each day to put work away and be truly off the clock.

 

3) Implement screen free hobbies

Work, music, research, movies, games– with all there is to do online, it’s easy to forget how many cool activities don’t require a charger cable.

Picking up an unplugged hobby like hiking, crafting, reading (a real book), or running will make you want to log off. Your eyes, posture, and and brain will thank you.

 

How do you keep technology from sucking you in? Comment below!

 

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Why Mom and Dad Should Work Out

As parents, self care often gets pushed to the bottom of the to-do list. Exercise in particular tends to be last priority. After all, it often requires changing clothing, more time away from the family (especially if you have small children), and maybe even a drive to the gym. But, sometimes what is good for Mom and Dad is  great for their kids, and working out is a great example of this principle. Here are just a few reasons why.

More energy

Do you ever feel like you just can’t keep up with your active three year old? Academia has found that exercise is one of the simplest ways to boost your energy level!

Monkey see, monkey do

Remember when they were babies, and they would mimic your facial expressions and your vocal inflections? Remember when they were toddlers, and you had to watch your mouth because they would repeat things at the most inopportune moments? Your kids are still watching you, and if they see you take care of your body, they will follow your example.

Longer lifespan

They say that the best part of being a parent is becoming a grandparent. Whether or not it’s true, wouldn’t you like to live long enough to find out? Being more active now will make your golden years more enjoyable and even give you more of them!

Opportunities for quality time

Exercise does not have to be a solitary activity! Go on a bike ride with your kids, explore the woods on a hike, learn to rock climb. Engaging in an activity together will give you time to reconnect with your kids and have meaningful conversations in a relaxed environment.

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