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Kids who watch more TV at two are more likely to be bullied at twelve

 

A new study in the Journal of Developmental & Behavioral Pediatrics found that two year olds who watched more television were more likely to be bullied at twelve years old.

 

Researchers followed about two thousand two year olds for ten years. For every extra hour more than average of television (1.5 hours per day), a child was 11% more likely to be victimized by peers at age twelve.

 

While the study limited its focus to time watching television, it’s not hard to imagine that the effects could extend to time playing games on mobile devices or surfing the web. Two year olds are often active and demanding, so it is tempting and convenient for parents to entertain their little ones with screens.

 

However, the results of the study indicate that electronic babysitting is an emotionally nutritionless option. The children who are glued to a screen are missing the opportunity to watch and engage in social interactions. Their emotional intelligence does not grow, because it is not being fed.

 

The more time children spend in front of screens, the more time they will continue to spend in front of screens. If toddlers do not learn the nuances of social interaction, they grow into school aged kids who are not at ease in social situations. Their social anxiety motivates them to withdraw to their comfort zones, technology, which increases their social isolation, which leads to more screen time.

 

And, of course, no child asks to be bullied, and certainly no child deserves to be bullied. However, as every adult knows, children know when other children are uncomfortable and uncertain. The ruthless children will exploit this knowledge.

 

This is just another reason for parents to unplug themselves and their families.

 

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How to Make the Most of Parent-Teacher Conference

 

Most schools have been in session for a month (or more) now, and parent-teacher conferences are not far away. With student to teacher ratios larger than ever, your kid’s teacher probably will not have much time for each conference. NPR offers advice on how to make the most of your parent-teacher conference.

 

Among other pieces of advice, the article suggests that you tell the teacher a little about your child (interests and any issues), clarify educational technical jargon, and ask what you can do to help.

 

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Four questions to evaluate a parenting technique

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Parenting is hard!

If you’re unsure about how effective your parenting techniques are, these four questions can help you examine your parenting style.

Can the parent’s actions be misinterpreted?

Many flawed parenting techniques fail because the parents believe they are teaching a certain principle, but their children are receiving a very different message. It can be helpful to examine the situation from the child’s point of view. Remember that young children often do not understand that there are different appropriate behaviors for different people (ie it is okay for a parent to remove a child’s clothing for a bath, but not okay for a child to remove his sibling’s swimsuit at the pool).
An affirmative answer to this question does not necessarily disqualify a parenting technique. However, care should be taken to clarify the meaning of the parent’s actions to the child to prevent misunderstanding.

What does this technique say about the parent?

Why does the parent gravitate towards this technique? Is it convenient? Is it cathartic? A good parenting technique will show that the parent is patient, firm, emotionally supportive, and controlled. Parenting techniques used out of emotion (anger, frustration, annoyance, exhaustion) are unlikely to be effective.

What does this technique teach my child about himself?

Effective parenting techniques teach a child that he is unconditionally loved, and that he has the power to change his environment. The technique should also teach a child how to move forward after making a mistake. Good parenting will teach a child that his worth does not change with his behavior, but his opportunities do change as a result of his actions.

What does this technique teach my child about relationships?

A negative parenting technique will teach a child that he is only worthy of a relationship when he has complied with the other person’s wishes. Negative parenting techniques can create “pleaser” children whom are afraid to act contrary to others’ wishes for fear of losing relationships.

A positive parenting technique helps your child learn that maintaining a healthy relationship is a two-way street. It teaches your child to not only treat others with kindness, consideration, and respect but to expect the same treatment for himself.

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Personal growth: How to identify an unreasonable expectation as a parent

Establishing healthy expectations can be one of the trickiest parts of becoming a balanced individual and an effective parent. Healthy expectations lead to accomplishment and contentment, while unreasonable expectations can disrupt relationships and inhibit personal growth. However, it can be difficult to know whether an expectation is unreasonably high, too low, or just right. These four factors can help you identify and adjust an unreasonable expectation.

Absolute

An unreasonable expectation leaves no room for forgiveness. It demands perfect compliance at all times, regardless of circumstances. Those with unreasonable expectations only respect success when it occurs on the first attempt, and they often discontinue their efforts after a failure.

People with reasonable expectations do not condone error, but they recognize that errors do happen. They work to resolve mistakes and make plans to avoid errors in the future. They also do not discount accomplishments because the success is preceded by failures. In fact, those with healthy expectations value success all the more if it comes after persistent effort.

Multiple

Unreasonable expectations often come in multiples. A person with unreasonable expectations might simultaneously set goals to spend meaningful time with family, maintain a successful career, keep the home environment clean and organized, and promote physical health in himself and others. Too many goals can overwhelm and discourage overzealous seekers of improvement.

Reasonable expectations ask for only one change at a time. While people with reasonable expectations desire excellence in many aspects of their lives, they will focus on one area and allow time for good habits to solidify before moving on to another area. They also understand that there are times and seasons to focus on various areas of their lives, and they do not expect themselves (or others) to be excellent in every area all the time.

Immediate

Worthwhile goals take time, effort, and sometimes multiple attempts before at success. People with healthy expectations realize this, and they allow themselves and others to be beginners at first. This means accepting imperfect but improving results. They focus on the direction of progress rather than the level of competence achieved. The beauty of this view is there is no cap on success—one can keep improving indefinitely.

Unprioritized

Individuals with unreasonable expectations do not prioritize the demands they place on others and themselves. They fail to recognize that some tasks are not as important as others, and they ignore the limitations of their resources when setting goals.

Individuals with reasonable expectations know that, while there are many worthwhile goals, some goals are more important, and some are less important. They order their goals so they do not waste finite resources like time, money, and energy on tasks that matter little to them.

Having reasonable expectations is essential. Those with reasonable expectations are able to reach their potential without overreaching or burning out. Leaders especially need to evaluate their expectations to inspire optimal performance in those under their stewardship. A leader with unreasonable expectations will lose followers; a leader with reasonable expectations will have a successful team, company, or family.

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