In our culture, compliments are fairly common, but a meaningful comment can brighten someone’s entire day! It costs so little for the giver, but the recipient will remember the words for days, weeks, or even years to come.
So, what makes the difference between a really stellar compliment and a mediocre one? Here are a few pointers to help you hone your skills.
Be specific
“You look nice,” is…. well…. nice, but not particularly memorable. For extra impact, try to put into words what is so “nice.” Is it the clothing? The carefully styled hair? The fresh-from-the-shower look? The confident demeanor?
Just a little more thought on your part could positively shape a person’s self image permanently! It’s worth the effort.
Be sincere
True enthusiasm is easy to spot. Insincerity can be masked, but the effect just isn’t the same as genuine intent. Also, an insincere compliment is often intended to be manipulative, and this gives all compliments a bad name. Don’t do it!
Be personal
What traits does this person value? On what does he or she focus time and effort?
Someone who is struggling to lose weight may really appreciate an image-related compliment. Others may take a compliment on their physique as an insult to their appearance on previous meetings.
A first-class compliment will make the recipient feel personally known and cherished.
Think back to particularly meaningful compliments you have received. What do they have in common? How did they make you feel?
A compliment is one of the best gifts you can give. Make each one count!